Why You Need to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

Monday, January 23, 2017

Picture that person. You know the one. In high school, they were the ones with community hours galore, made a 4.0 GPA look easy, never found without a posse of friends in the hallways, came from a family of four that lived in the nicest local neighborhood, and never, ever had a bad hair day. They were the one that everyone envied.

Then there was that girl... the one with a great sense of humor, heart of gold, unwavering work ethic, and locks softer that Goldi's. But she didn't see that. All she saw was everything she could be, and everything she wasn't; she saw everything she could have, and everything she didn't.

Someone will always have something that you want, and someone will always want what you have. 

What someone else has does not take away from what you have. She is pretty. He drives a great car. That family lives in a nice home. But when we acknowledge these things, we often add an -er or -est to these terms. That teeny tiny alteration completely changes how we perceive them. Instead of simply admiring what someone else has, our minds focus on us not having it. Everyone is their own kind of wonderful. We must see people as being great, not greater or the greatest.

The Instagram aesthetics and eye shadow palettes, as lovely as they are, have clouded our minds. We have started to believe that things really are as wonderful as they look. And even worse, we want those things. Those same exact things. We all put an image out to the world, but it is nothing more than that: an image. We all have so much more to offer, but we are too consumed with filters and follows to recognize it. We try so hard to tailor our image to reflect those we admire. Yet, we fail to see that the reason we admire them is because of their unique individuality. You have it too, even if you have yet to discover it.

She is her, and you are you. Put the Beautyblender away because no matter how hard you try, that line will not be blurred. Instead of striving to be something that you are not, embrace everything that you are.

You were blessed with a body and mind that is unique to you. Your life, as imperfect as it may seem, has helped create exactly who you are today. And who is that you may ask? An absolutely magnificent human being. Do not envy her body, because your shape and curves are stunning. Do not be jealous of her house, because it cannot compare to the memorie and comfort of your home. Do not yearn for his popularity, because your friendships are more golden than sashes and crowns. Do not want to be anyone but you, because you are you, and that is more than enough.

Each and every person has a unique, extraordinary combination of qualities that cannot be replicated. I urge you to recognize yours and appreciate them. Be so grateful for the person you are, the people you love, the things you have, and the life you have lived that you have no time to desire it being any other way.


  1. Wonderfully said and such an important reminder to everyone. It definitely gets easier with age and comfort in the world, but there are always times in our lives when we need reminders like this. Thanks!

  2. This is so important to read! It's hard not to feel insecure when you come across extremely successful or attractive people on Instagram – but you're so right, everyone is special in their own way! Thank you for writing this!

  3. So much wisdom for someone so young. And a great reminder for me. Thanks for writing and sharing.

  4. So true! If you compare yourself to others it's actually impossible to be happy!

    Caitlin, Beauty & Colour

  5. Why compare yourself, there is no one else like ourselves ;) Also I do believe being true to yourself is what brings in the happiness from within.
    Thank you dear for sharing such a lovely post :)

  6. You are so right (: Everyone has their own uniqueness and comparing all the time makes us forget that. We forget how amazing we are individually.

  7. I am really working on this do it far too much!!

    Sophie x

  8. Wonderful post. You should not compare yourself with others. Everyone is unique :)


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